Wishing something would happen is easy. People do it all the time. People wish for a great job; the perfect relationship or a happy marriage; to simply stop using; to win that huge lottery prize and on and on and on.
Wishing for something however does not mean that it will happen. Most people, who are successful in achieving what they want, need to do three things. To be successful, you must first establish your goals (or what can be thought of as your wish list), then second you must plan how to take the required sequence of steps needed to accomplish your goals, and third you must take action on your plan to make your goals change from a wish into a reality.
Not many people want to start therapy. It takes great courage to do so. As stated above, merely wishing things would get better doesn't work, but if you are like most people, you have to learn this the hard way. So it usually takes a great deal of pain through the 'insane behaviors and thoughts' of doing the same things over and over, expecting different results, for someone to finally be willing to seek therapy and to start on a journey of health. "Wanting to want to" change is the beginning.
Therapy is a process; where we work together to clearly establish your goals, to learn how to create positive change in your life, and how to maintain: hope, serenity, and stability. Dr. Bob Rotella (sports psychologist) says it well when he states: "My work is a little bit like that of a guide. I help people get places they couldn't reach on their own. I don't carry them there. I help them find the resources within themselves to make the journey." Another way to think of therapy is a time to set aside in a busy week — an hour just for you.